• selective focus photography of child s hand
    MALE BC

    A TALK WITH MY SON ABOUT CANCER

    One of the things that I have never talked about is when I told my son that I had cancer. I think that was the hardest conversation I had at the time it was happening, more so than telling my parents and friends. When my doctor diagnosed me with breast cancer, I called my ex-wife to tell her the results. We both broke down crying because we knew that our son, Vincent, would suffer knowing that I had cancer. As I write this, I am tearing up. I told my ex-wife that she would have to tell our son. I couldn’t. Not yet. I know that was a lot for…

  • silver colored microphone
    BREAST CANCER,  COMMUNITY,  MALE BC,  MEN GET BC

    Stand Up For Your Beliefs

      By: Steve Del Gardo For the last several years, well mostly the last 5 years, I have read many articles, posts on social media on how people are imposing their beliefs on others when it involves cancer. Telling us how to use certain words to describe our cancer journey or how we should feel. Telling us not to use certain words or how we should live our lives. I have also come to realize that there are lot of negative people in our cancer circle more than the positive ones. And sometimes, well most of the time, these two forces fight against each other. IT NEEDS TO STOP! ALL…

  • BREAST CANCER,  Failed Reconstruction,  Unilateral Mastectomy

    A Glitch

      By: Beatrice Compagnon On learning to live with a body you didn’t choose. “Don’t worry, it is just a little bit of cancer. We will get you better in no time.” These weren’t the words I expected to hear on my 37th birthday. Ok, it’s not invasive, stage zero — that should be easy to fix, right? No chemo, no radiation – just a lumpectomy. Oh wait, the margins are not clear so a mastectomy it is. Well, Doc, if we do one side, let’s do both; I don’t want to end up with two different breasts. Nor do I want to be screened every three months for the…

  • BREAST CANCER,  LIFE AFTER BREAST CANCER,  RECLAIMING MY BODY

    Ugliness of the Pink Ribbon

    By Lora Harvey As all the air left my lungs, time stood still on June 15, 2017. And I seemingly forgot how to breathe. Only when my respiratory system took over again did I inhale.In that split second, my life began dismantling. Microscopic cracks at first, but those compound and quickly become unnegotiable divides. I was never the girl that was gonna get breast cancer. I was already diabetic; another ailment would be a cruel joke. But here I am. According to some test taken at some point along the way, I had an 11% risk of developing breast cancer over the course of my lifetime. LIFETIME. Neither BRCA1 nor…

  • BREAST CANCER,  BREAST CANCER AWARENESS,  COMMUNITY,  LIFE AFTER BREAST CANCER,  MASTECTOMY

    We Belong To One Another

    Mia’s bilateral mastectomy was in 2007, and mine was in 2010.  Numerous times since then, we’ve both had people say to us, “Can’t you just get over it?”, and other similar comments.  We know there are women both in treatment and post-treatment that hear these same words every single day.  And we also know words like that can cause a woman shame due to her wondering why she isn’t ‘over it’ already.  It has to stop.  Women (and men) who are faced with the reality of a breast cancer diagnosis already have enough worry and fear on their plates, they don’t need anyone – inner circle or acquaintance – adding…

  • BREAST CANCER,  BREAST CANCER AWARENESS,  LIFE AFTER BREAST CANCER,  MASTECTOMY

    HEALING THE WHOLE WOMAN

    One can’t imagine the stigma, loneliness, pain and sometimes embarrassment that comes with cutting off your breasts. Women are “known” for their breasts – after all that’s what makes a woman beautiful and voluptuous, right?! So losing them can be a major blow to one’s heart and soul. There isn’t much, if any, information out there on how to heal one’s soul from the loss of your breasts.  It’s just a brushed over subject that no one in the industry wants to entertain.  That’s breast cancer information, in general, and so many people don’t realize what women are actually dealing with on a daily basis. There are women walking around…

  • BREAST CANCER,  BREAST CANCER AWARENESS,  FLAT CLOSURE NOW,  MASTECTOMY

    THINGS I WISH I HAD KNOWN PRIOR TO MY MASTECTOMY

    A mastectomy, either single or double, is a common treatment for women with breast cancer.  I asked some of my friends to contribute to the conversation, and this is the information that many from the breast community wish they had known. 1.  I wish I had taken pictures documenting procedure and recovery, and journaled. There’s so much I have forgotten! (I am a firm believer that our mind clouds our memory sometimes to allow us to heal from trauma, but there is still so much healing that can come from the remembering.) 2.  More support from other women who went thru this…You find out you have cancer and without catching…

  • BODY POSITIVE,  BREAST CANCER,  LIFE AFTER BREAST CANCER,  RECLAIMING MY BODY

    THE GRACE PROJECT AND HEALING MY SOUL

      By: Mia Curtiss A few years back I was asked to participate in “The Grace Project” in Chicago. After a comedy of errors it never happened. God knew far better than me I was by no means ready to pose topless without my breasts. Fast forward two years later the opportunity presents itself again and although I’m extremely uncomfortable with how I look I knew I had to show up and own all of the healing “The Grace Project” would give my soul. Of course I thought of 922 excuses to not visit with Sondra and do the project but in the end I got on the plane and…